Lessons from my mother

Wahu Kagwi, award winning singer/songwriter. Wahu is a mother of one daughter aged six and a half

SM: What was your mother’s parenting style?

Wahu: Mum was strict, but she was not unapproachable and I could go to her when I needed to. But yes, she used her slipper on me on many occasions. 

SM: Did you take after her? What is your parenting style?

Wahu: I’m very hands-on with my daughter. I’m her biggest fan, her disciplinarian, her prayer warrior and her guide in these very critical stages of her journey on earth. 

SM: Which were the most valuable lessons on parenting from your mom?

Wahu: I learnt that a mother’s love knows no limits. I understand how she feels about me when I look at how I feel about my daughter. 

I also learnt that if you spare the rod, you spoil the child that you love so much, but discipline should be done in love and without anger. 

SM: What discipline incident do you remember?

Wahu: One time my little cousin ate some sugar, and we were both punished - my cousin for eating the sugar, and me for not stopping her, given that I was the older one. It taught me responsibility and leadership.

SM: Your thoughts on motherhood?

Wahu: Nothing should ever take priority over your family or spending time with your kids. Being their first teacher, their mentor, their protector and encourager is the greatest investment you as a mum can ever make.

(Wahu’s mother, Mrs. Lucy Kagwi, is a retired banker)