She loves me, she loves me not…how to tell whether she’s into you
Try telling her how you’re feeling. The worst that can happen is that she friend zones you.
You’ve been going out with this lovely girl for a while, and you’re beginning to have feelings for her. So you start wondering whether she has feelings for you.
But that’s not an easy question to answer! You’d think you’d just know, but very often you just don’t. And you can’t just ask her out of the blue! Because a girl who’s only just starting to fall for you won’t say.
But there’ll be give-away signs.
Like she’ll remember what you say. Do you recall what you said last week? Probably not. So if she does, she’s into you.
She’ll look for excuses to communicate, and frequently start the conversation. Often for no apparent reason. And if you text, she replies quickly.
When you’re together, and talking face to face, she doesn’t mess with her phone.
She buys small things for you, or pays for your coffee. She cancels plans to fit in with yours, is nice to your friends and wants to sit beside you.
She may seem a little nervous when she’s near you. Her mood towards you goes hot and cold, because sometimes she’s afraid she’s shown her feelings too much without getting a response. So she pulls back to cover her tracks. She can seem a tad jealous when you talk with other friends.
She always spots you in a crowd, and always knows exactly where you are in the room. As you move about, she’ll keep you within line of sight, and every now and then will take a look to make sure you’re still there. You’ll notice her playing with her clothes or hair when you’re nearby. She’ll sit just a little closer than friends usually do when she’s sitting next to you. She’ll do the same when you’re walking together. She’ll often lightly touch your hand or arm. She’ll turn slightly towards you in a group, mirror your behaviour, and use the same gestures or words you’re using. She’ll smile while talking to you even if there’s no good reason to, and will even laugh at your worst jokes. Her smiles linger and fade away slowly, she constantly glances at you, maybe even stares, and if you catch her looking at you, she’s OK with it.
Watch for gentle teasing and compliments. If you pay a bit more attention to her then her face seems to light up. She likes all your posts and comments, and is aware of everything you’re doing online.
And if you’re not seeing any signs like these? Then she’s not that into you. Try telling her how you’re feeling. The worst that can happen is that she friend zones you. That’s hard, but it’s better to know. Just enjoy being friends, and start looking around.
Whatever you do, don’t start harassing her if she’s not interested. That might work in Hollywood, but in real life it’s weird.
So get out there again! There’s loads more girls out there.