How best to comfort someone who is grieving

When consoling someone who has lost a loved one, never share your grief story.

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What you need to know:

  • My most comfortable way of saying “I am sorry” is serving fellow mourners the tea and bread we normally serve during wakes, and washing the cups thereafter before leaving.
  • If you’re among those that have mastered the art of comforting those in mourning, I’d appreciate more pointers.

Sometime in March this year, I bumped into an acquaintance I hadn’t seen in a couple of months. The last time I had seen her, she was almost giving birth to her first child, therefore the baby would have been around eight months. After the usual chitchat, I asked, “Boy and girl?” only to be met with silence and eyes that immediately misted up with tears. Eventually, she said in a strangled voice, “I lost the baby…”


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