Millicent Ayuwa, better known as Dem Wa Facebook.
Millicent Ayuwa, better known as Dem Wa Facebook, burst into the limelight when she auditioned for the Churchill Live comedy show. Her raw, relatable and bubbly personality quickly gained her traction and attention.
People started calling me Dem Wa Facebook when I performed on the Churchill show because of my random skits and the name stuck.
I come from a poor background. My mother was a mama mboga and my father made and sold construction bricks. Building them a decent three-bedroom house is my proudest achievement. As women, we will always go back to our parents. My home wasn't something I was proud of.
My journey as a comedian has been good, but there have been struggles, balancing life in the limelight with my reality hasn't been easy. The expectation of many is that I am wealthy and successful, all because of fame. There have been times when my wallet hasn't matched my brand and yet people expect me to live a life of luxury.
I don't subscribe to the 'Team Lilia Dubai' school of thought. I believe that a woman should be able to earn her own income, no matter how little it is. It is better than being 'Team Lilia Dubai' where you depend on a sponsor (sugar daddy) to give you the good life and set you up in the leafy suburbs of Karen because the day he dumps you, you go back to zero.
If you get dumped, you should at least be stable because you already have something going for you.
It is quite easy to tame a man even if you are financially stable, but we make it difficult for ourselves. No matter how much money you have as a woman when you come home, let the man be the head, let him lead, even if you are dating a plumber or a man with a low income. Otherwise, your ego will keep you single for life.
The reason why financially stable women struggle to have stable relationships is because they think that since they have money they can now lead the relationship, especially if the woman has more money.
The bitter truth is that if a woman gets richer before the man, there is a high chance that she will dump the boychild. But if it is the other way round, there is a greater chance that the man will transform the broke woman rather than abandon her.
How many financially stable women of this generation can come out and say they have transformed the life of a broke man?
Women are not alive to the fact that the boy child of this generation is scared of us because of the perception that the moment the woman gets money; he will be dumped. So they choose to stay away from financially stable women.
